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Oct 2023
32m 11s

Episode 229: Men, Masculinity, & Male Se...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
There’s a growing narrative out there in the popular media and on social media that “men are trash” and that they need to “do better.” The response of some men has been to push back, and this has led to the rise of the "manosphere," an online network of men’s rights activists pushing back against feminism. Tensions are quickly rising, so let's talk about it. In today’s show we’re going to explore how the issues facing men have changed, what it means to be a "better man," and more. My guest is Dr. Eric FitzMedrud, a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues in the San Francisco Bay Area. His specialty is helping men improve their sex lives, and his latest book is titled The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex. Some of the topics we explore include:
  • What was the inspiration for writing The Better Man?
  • What are some common things people get wrong about testosterone and what it means for male sexuality?
  • As a society, how can we help men "do better" without pushing them into radical communities?
  • How have the struggles that men are dealing with changed over the past 15 years?
  • How can men go about unburdening themselves from sexual shame and reclaim their sexuality?
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