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May 2024
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Episode 290: How To Have Hot And Healthy...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Sex is something that evolves with us over the course of our lives. Your level of desire, the connection you have with your partner(s), and what feels good during sex can all shift quite a lot. However, despite all of these ways that sex tends to change, most of us are expecting that it will stay the same, and that’s where problems arise. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to adapt to and embrace sexual change so that you can have hot and healthy sex for your entire life.

I am joined once again by Kate Moyle, a psychosexual and relationship therapist based in the United Kingdom. She runs the Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast, and is author of the new book The Science of Sex: Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered.

Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

  • How can we maintain a sense of sexual curiosity over time?
  • What is sexual currency? Why is this concept important for understanding how to maintain a lasting sexual connection?
  • How can taking a pause from sex provide an opportunity to reboot and reset your sex life?
  • How do you build up sexual self-confidence following a breakup?
  • How can we prioritize and maintain lifelong sexual well-being?

You can learn more about Kate’s work by visiting her website here.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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