Why do you keep dating a different man only to end up in the same relationship? If you're always giving more, trying harder, and settling for breadcrumbs, it may be time to explore what keeps that pattern alive.
In this coaching episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy works with a woman whose experiences growing up in a large family in Belfast offer clues about her struggles with emotionally unavailable men. Together, they explore how learning to earn attention through achievement can carry over into dating—and how keeping conversations focused on someone else can make it harder to feel seen.
With warmth, humor, and practical homework, Kimmy helps Rosalyn take small steps toward showing up more openly, building confidence, and bringing playfulness back into meeting men.
In this episode, you'll discover:
How overgiving can coexist with difficulty opening up and receiving love.
Why familiar relationship dynamics can keep drawing you toward unavailable partners.
The difference between keeping a conversation going and letting someone get to know you.
How sharing a personal story can create an opportunity for reciprocal interest.
Simple ways to practice openness through eye contact, smiling, and intentional style.
Why approaching dating as practice can ease the pressure to find a relationship.
Your practice this week: Share something about yourself, smile at someone new, and wear something that makes you feel confident. Notice how you feel and how others respond—without making every interaction a test of your romantic future.
You don't have to earn love by doing everything for everyone. Start making room to be seen, heard, and cared for, too.
Ready to explore your own dating patterns? Book a coaching call with Kimmy Seltzer to uncover your blind spots and take steps toward a more reciprocal relationship!
https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/. You'll uncover the patterns and blind spots that may be keeping you stuck and look at what you can start doing differently to create the kind of dating life and relationship you want.
Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.
************************************************
Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life.
************************************************
Would you like to connect with Kimmy?
Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/
Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/
Instagram: @kimmyseltzer
Twitter: @kimmyseltzer
Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers
Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com