In this episode of Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence, I explore why we can become so dependent on other people's approval that we start losing touch with who we really are.
I look at the difference between wanting approval and needing it, how people-pleasing can leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves, and why the fear of rejection can lead us to hide our opinions, compromise our boundaries and become whoever we think others want us to be.
Most importantly, I explore how to build self-trust, develop internal approval and create more authentic relationships.
Because the goal isn't to stop caring what people think. It's to stop allowing what they think to determine how you feel about yourself.
Takeaways
👉 Wanting approval is human; depending on it can become a trap. The problem begins when other people's opinions determine your self-worth.
👉 People-pleasing can leave you feeling lonely. When you perform to be accepted, people may connect with the version of you that you've created rather than the person you really are.
👉 Rejection isn't a verdict on your worth. Sometimes you're simply not the right fit for someone else.
👉 Self-trust reduces the need for external validation. The more you trust your own judgement, the less you need others to confirm that you're making the right choices.
👉 Authenticity requires the courage to risk disapproval. You can respect other people's opinions without abandoning your own.
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