Read the fullepisode breakdown + show notes:
https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/blog/ep193-the-cost-of-self-abandonment
She had already started pointing her school families toward other schools when she realized the business wasn't the problem. The question mark in her leadership was.
Renea L. Moss, also known as Rai Renea, is an award-winning author, speaker,and performer, and the founder of Forge Independent Schools. For years she poured into everyone around her and called it strength, until a health crisismade the cost impossible to ignore. Underneath her story is a self-trust question every leader eventually meets: do my needs count as much as everyone else's?
In This Episode, We Explore:
• Self-Abandonment Dressed as Strength: how serving everyone can look like leadership from the outside while quietly costing you everything on theinside
• Either/Or Leadership: why "either they're happy or there are rules" left Renea's school confused, stalled, and running on her exhaustion
• Over-Ownership: what changes when you stop owning things that were never yours to own, from an employee's performance to a stranger's opinion of youroutfit
• Removing the Question Mark: why direct leadership is not unkind, and how wishy-washy directions quietly invite "what can I get away with"
• Rai Renea, All of Her: why Renea stopped splitting the educator from the performer, and why it takes so much energy to not be you
• No Apology in My Throat: the spoken word album born from refusing to apologize for who she is
Episode Chapters:
00:00 Welcome and introducing Renea L. Moss
01:14 Pouring into everyone except herself
06:14 Boundaries, business fires, and a health crisis
14:19 The ER doctor's question and choosing herself
16:15 "Too sexy for this environment" and owning her full expression
22:11 Leadership without the question mark24:39 Almost closing the school, and deciding to stay27:40 It takes so much energy to not be you
32:39 No Apology in My Throat, rest, and what's next
Connect with Renea L. Moss:
Website: https://reneasworld.com/
Books: Mumblings of a Maniac, The Book of Rebellion, and the memoir How a Honeybun Almost Took Me Out.
Spoken word album: No Apology in My Throat.
Join the Conversation:
This one is for the business owner who answers the 9 p.m. message, softens every direction so no one gets upset, and has quietly started wondering whether it's time to close the whole thing down. Before you decide the business is the problem, listen for the question mark.
Where are you standing?
Before more strategy, more effort, or another decision — know where you're standing.
Three minutes. Your results, your floor, your next move.
https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/where-are-you-standing