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What Punishments Really Do

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
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Most of us used the same tools: the time-out, taking something away, counting to three. And we were told they teach. But here's the question nobody asked. Did any of it actually work, or did it just get quiet for twenty minutes? Punishment buys a little compliance, and it pays for it out of the one account that matters: your child's trust. In this episode, M ... Show More
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