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Sep 24
19m 18s

Gray Divorce and the 30-Year Con: Why Co...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Gray divorce isn't a midlife crisis. For a lot of people, it's the end of a con that ran for decades. When researchers ask why people divorce after 50, the top answer from women isn't money or infidelity — it was abuse. In this highlight from Kerry's weekly live Q&A, she takes on why so many people stay in psychologically abusive marriages for 20 or 30 ... Show More
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