527: Self-Worth is an Inside Job

Episode Summary

Self-worth is an inside job, but so many of us were taught to look outside of ourselves to feel valuable. In this episode, I'm talking about what self-worth really is, where it comes from, and how appearance, performance, perfectionism, people-pleasing, codependency, and outside validation can shape the way we see ourselves.

I also share part of my own story of growing up with my worth tied to beauty and appearance, and how that eventually led me on a deeper journey of building real self-worth from within.

You'll learn how to come back to fact and truth when comparison or self-judgment starts to spiral, how to practice self-validation in small everyday moments, and how to help children build healthy self-worth by validating who they are, not just what they do.

Key Takeaways

• Self-worth is not something you have to earn
• Looking outside of yourself for your worth leads to unhealthy patterns and relationships
• Appearance, performance, helping, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can all become ways we try to feel worthy
• Codependency can make our identity and self-worth feel tied to helping others
• Children build self-worth through what is modeled and reflected back to them
• Validating children for who they are is more powerful than only praising what they do
• Comparison is not always the problem. The problem is when comparison turns into self-judgment
• Stories are not fact and truth, and they can send us into anxiety, overwhelm, and awfulizing
• You have the power to choose which thoughts you latch onto
• Changing your physical state can help interrupt a negative emotional spiral
• Small daily validations matter, even if no one else sees them
• Healthy self-worth is built from the inside out

Resources from this Episode:

Free Self-Worth Masterclass:
https://theadultchair.com/selfworth

The Adult Chair® Metamorphosis Live Event:
https://theadultchair.com/liveevents

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