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Sep 10
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I Treated Narcissists for Years and Neve...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Why did the narcissist’s collapse look so real — curled on the floor, shaking, sweating, begging you not to leave — yet nothing changed after? What looks like a breakdown is often a temporary loss of status, not a loss of identity — the defensive structure drops for 30 seconds, then rapidly reconsolidates and the manipulation continues. This is a highlight ... Show More
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