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Jun 22
22m 7s

How To Get Kids To Open Up

Nurtured First
About this episode


You ask how their day was and all you get is a shrug and "fine." The more questions you pile on, the more they shut down. In this episode, Jess shares the reflective-listening skills she uses to help anyone open up, along with the specific questions, rituals, and quiet moments of connection that actually get kids talking. You'll walk away knowing why interrogation backfires and exactly what to do instead.


YOU'LL LEARN

  • Why "How was your day?" almost always gets you a one-word answer
  • The specific, detailed questions that get kids talking, and why they work better than open-ended ones
  • How to use reflective listening, a core therapist skill, to help your child feel heard
  • Why piling on more questions makes kids shut down, and can even lead to lying
  • How to use connection and quiet moments, like car rides, to open the door to conversation
  • How to build family rituals that make sharing feel safe and normal

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Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


DISCLAIMER The content provided is for educational and supportive purposes only. This is not a substitute for medical or therapeutic diagnosis or treatment. Views expressed by guests are theirs. If your child is at risk of harm or you need personalized guidance, please seek a qualified professional.


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