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May 31
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Daily Shift 172: People pleasing is not ...

Celeste The Therapist
About this episode

People pleasing feels like it's about being considerate. About keeping the peace. About being a good person. But at its core it has nothing to do with other people at all. It's about your fear. Fear of rejection, conflict, withdrawal, not being enough. In today's episode, Celeste gets to the real root of people pleasing — and why naming the fear underneath it is the only thing that actually changes it.

Today's shift: Name the specific fear that drives your people pleasing — and get honest about whether that fear is running your decisions.

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