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May 2026
22m 42s

Why Your Relationship Feels Off During L...

EJ AND TARAH KERWIN
About this episode

Have you ever noticed that your relationship starts to feel off…

Right when life is changing?

👉 You move

👉 Have a baby

👉 Start a new job

👉 Even go on vacation

And suddenly:

  • You’re arguing more
  • You feel disconnected
  • Or something just feels… different


Here’s the confusing part:

👉 Nothing is actually “wrong”

In this episode, we break down why transitions—both big and small—can quietly create distance between couples, even when everything seems positive on the surface.

You’ll learn:

  • Why change disrupts your relationship more than you expect
  • How loss of routine and predictability impacts connection
  • Why you and your partner cope differently (and what that creates)
  • The hidden patterns that lead to conflict, distance, and disconnection

Most importantly…

👉 You’ll start to understand that this isn’t a relationship failure

👉 It’s a very predictable dynamic

This is Part 1 of a two-part series where we help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface—so you can actually start to navigate it differently.



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