Why does desire often fade in long-term relationships — even when couples deeply love each other?
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In this episode, EJ and Tarah are joined by Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, to explore why intimacy can start to feel pressured, routine, or emotionally distant over time. If you’ve ever wondered why connection doesn’t automatically follow commitment, or why closeness can suddenly feel anxiety-producing instead of natural, this conversation offers a deeper explanation.
Together, they unpack how expectation, anxiety, and unspoken pressure quietly erode connection, and why many couples try to fix intimacy by focusing on the act itself rather than the emotional and nervous-system conditions that make closeness possible.
Dan shares insights from his own marriage and his work helping couples move beyond obligation and routine, including why:
They also discuss practical ways couples can rebuild connection gradually, including slowing down, creating moments of presence, and learning to tolerate closeness instead of rushing past it.
This episode is especially helpful if:
This is a grounded, honest conversation about intimacy in real relationships — not quick fixes, but what actually helps couples feel close again over time.
Learn more about Dan Purcell and his work at:
https://getyourmarriageon.com/renovation
We also offer private coaching and discovery calls for individuals and couples who feel stuck in repeating patterns and want more personalized support.