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136: How to Feel Safe Earning More (With...

Kate Northrup, Author, Entrepreneur, and Speaker
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Have you ever made more money… only to find yourself overspending, shrinking back, or feeling anxious instead of abundant? If so, you’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with you.

In this episode, I explore one of the most important — and most misunderstood — pieces of financial growth: your money nervous system thermostat. We often think that earning more should feel good, natural, or easy. But the truth is, if a part of your body doesn’t feel safe with more, it will unconsciously pull you back to what’s familiar, even if what’s familiar is financial stress, inconsistency, or sabotage.


I share:
 ✨ Why lifestyle inflation, overspending, or freezing with money isn’t a lack of discipline — it’s a nervous system response.
 ✨ How our childhood environment (not just money memories) sets our internal “thermostat” for how much abundance feels safe.
 ✨ The science behind why expansion often triggers threat responses like guilt, fear, or shame — even when something good is happening.
 ✨ Powerful, practical tools to build your capacity to earn more and keep more, including nervous system healing practices and co-regulation in community.


I also share personal stories — including the moment Louise Hay offered me my first book deal and why my immediate response was a shame spiral rather than celebration. This is such a potent example of how expansion can overwhelm our body if we haven’t updated our internal capacity to receive more.


You’ll walk away understanding:
 🌿 Why financial strategy can’t stick without nervous system safety
 🌿 How to start signaling “you are safe” during both contraction and expansion
🌿 The key questions to ask your body to uncover the stories and sensations running the show
🌿 How safe community accelerates your capacity to hold more wealth with ease and consistency


This episode will help you stop the patterns that have kept you cycling between making more and losing it — and instead begin to create a nervous system that can hold, grow, and enjoy wealth. When you practice feeling safe with more, more becomes normal.


"If you've ever made more money only to find yourself shrinking back, overspending, or sabotaging it, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you — it’s because a part of you doesn’t feel safe with more." –Kate Northrup

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 Welcome + Why earning more can feel unsafe
02:10 Justin Bieber example: making more ≠ keeping more
04:05 Lifestyle creep + hedonic adaptation explained
06:00 What your “money nervous system thermostat” really is
08:15 How childhood environment shapes your financial capacity
10:20 Why expansion can trigger sabotage, fear, or shame
12:45 Overspending, overgiving, or freezing: different dysregulation patterns
14:30 Tools to signal safety during financial expansion
17:05 Kate’s Hay House book-deal story + co-regulation
19:40 Questions to ask your body to expand your money capacity
21:30 Closing + The Money Reset invitation


Links and Resources:

Neurosomatic Intelligence
Relaxed Money Live


The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make


Making more money doesn’t guarantee financial ease… but this will. The Money Reset is a free audio experience designed to help you rewire your nervous system for wealth—so managing money feels effortless. 🎧💸


Inside, you’ll learn how to:
💡 Break the “money in, money out” cycle and create lasting stability.
🎯 Relax into a new relationship with money—where structure meets flow.
✨ Use the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual to bring instant clarity to your finances.


More money won’t solve money stress—a resourced, supple nervous system will. Ready to shift? 👉 Get The Money Reset now! 👈


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