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Nov 11
20m 57s

134: Debt, Shame and the Stories We Don'...

Kate Northrup, Author, Entrepreneur, and Speaker
About this episode

What if dissolving shame is the missing step between you and real financial momentum?


In this solo episode of Plenty, Kate unpacks the tight grip of debt shame and financial secrecy—and why hiding from the numbers stalls your progress far more than the numbers themselves. She reframes debt as “invoices for blessings already received” and makes the critical distinction between high-interest consumer debt and debt that makes you money (the positive “spread” when your return outpaces your interest). You’ll also hear why all-or-nothing thinking is a nervous-system red flag, and how telling someone safe is often the first step to clarity and action.


We cover: releasing shame by bringing things into the light, building capacity to “do the math,” and seeing nuanced opportunities—so you can either dissolve unhelpful debt or strategically leverage it for wealth.


Listen now to discover:
 ✨ Why shame halts financial progress—and how sharing it sets you free
 ✨ “Invoices for blessings already received” as a practical reframe for debt
 ✨ The difference between consumer debt and return-producing leverage (the spread)
 ✨ How dysregulation fuels avoidant money habits—and what to do instead
 ✨ A simple truth-telling step: tell someone safe and start looking at the numbers


“I call debt invoices for blessings already received.” — Kate Northrup

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00:00 Why debt shame keeps you stuck; welcoming honesty and light
00:27 Show intro: money, time, energy, and a life of plenty
01:27 Debt, secrecy, and why shame halts financial progress
02:22 Tell the truth (to someone safe); vulnerability has to be earned
03:12 Debt ≠ bad: using credit as a wealth-building tool when appropriate
04:09 Credit, solvency, and why “no credit” can limit leverage
06:03 “Invoices for blessings already received” (student loans, credit cards, mortgages)
06:40 Beware false binaries; nuance requires a regulated nervous system
07:12 The spread: borrowing at 4% to earn 100%—a positive use of debt
09:32 High-interest consumer debt vs. productive debt (don’t pay 20% APR)
11:05 Normalizing the month-to-month “float” in real businesses
13:48 From credit-card debt to 8-figure growth: dissolving shame to act
15:11 When fear blocks math: build capacity, then choose the smart move
16:22 Two actions: tell someone safe; start doing something about it
17:19 Seeing you may have been smarter than you thought (the numbers help)
18:19 Learn the lesson, integrate it, and change the pattern
19:36 Any past decision can become wealth once shame’s story is dropped


Links and Resources:

Brené Brown
Relaxed Money


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