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Nov 7
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#560 Why Chasing Goals Makes You Unhappy...

DR. ROBERT PUFF, PH.D.
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We've all been sold the same idea: sacrifice your happiness today for a richer, better "someday" once you finally achieve your big goals. But what if that entire mindset is a trap that guarantees you never actually learn how to live well? In this episode, we're dismantling why this chase so often fails and uncovering the practical secret to finding fulfillment and happiness right now, in the middle of the journey.

New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org


Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential?

Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness.

A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life.

His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness.

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