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Nov 1
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157 - Do You Want To Be Right — Or Be Ha...

Alastair Duhs
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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever felt the urge to prove you're right—especially in the heat of an argument? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares a personal story and a lesson from a truck-driving client that will change the way you think about conflict.

Discover why letting go of the need to be right isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to protect your relationships and your peace of mind.

Key Takeaways:

-The need to “be right” often fuels conflict, putting your relationships and emotional health at risk.

-Trying to prove someone else wrong rarely creates connection—it usually leads to resentment and defensiveness.

-Seeking to understand instead of arguing your point helps de-escalate tension and fosters mutual respect.

-Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving in—it means valuing the relationship over the need to win.

-Even small changes in behavior, like giving others space, can have a big impact on your calmness and safety, both emotionally and physically.

-When you release the urge to control others, you gain true control over yourself.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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