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Oct 21
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220. The Sneaky Reason You Still Don't F...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest reasons highly sensitive people stay stuck—overthinking instead of acting.

She shares why consuming self-help content isn’t enough, why confidence doesn’t come from journaling or affirmations alone, and how taking small, messy action steps is what actually rewires your identity and builds self-trust.

Through client stories, personal reflection, and her own journey from blog posts to a Penguin Random House book deal, Alissa shows how you can stop waiting to feel ready and start becoming the version of yourself who already does the thing.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why awareness alone won’t create transformation
  • The difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it
  • Why confidence is built through discomfort, not perfection
  • Simple ways to practice self-trust in low-stakes situations
  • How small, consistent steps compound into massive growth over time

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  • Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
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