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Oct 15
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HOW Soon Is Too Soon to Ask...What Are W...

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How soon is too soon to ask, “What are we?”
On this episode of Real Love Scenario, we’re unpacking one of the most vulnerable—and important—conversations in dating: defining the relationship.
Is it a vibe… or are we actually building something? We’ll break down the key definitions, green flags, and red flags when it comes to exclusivity, timelines, and clarity.
🧠 We explore the 4 C’s:
  • Clarity – shared definitions of “exclusive” and “relationship”
  • Capacity – are they actually available emotionally and mentally?
  • Compatibility – values, goals, lifestyle pace
  • Consistency – do the actions match the words?

🔥 Topics We Cover:
  • Exclusivity vs. official relationship vs. sexual boundaries
  • Best & worst “DTR” (Define the Relationship) stories
  • The infamous “delete the apps” moment
  • Timelines that work… and ones that don’t
  • Scripts to open the convo without pressure

🟢 Green flags: Steady plans, “we” language, friend/fam integration🔴 Red flags: Avoiding the convo, vibe-only energy, hot–cold behavior
💬 Tell us your timeline in the comments:Team 6 Weeks / Team 3 Months / Team When-It-Feels-Right
🗣 Favorite prompt to try:“I’m not asking for a grid post—just clarity about us and deleting the apps.”
✅ Like, comment, subscribe, and follow us @RealLoveScenario.Vote in our IG poll and share your best DTR moment below!
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