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May 2024
54m 2s

Loving My Lying, Dying, Cheating Husband...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
About this episode

Imagine yourself married to the person you love when they’re diagnosed with terminal cancer. You’ve been their carer and support during such an emotionally difficult time. But, then you find out that they have been cheating on you since your wedding day.
Do you continue to care for them?
Today’s guest didn’t have to imagine this scenario. She lived it.

Kerstin Pilz grew up in Germany and was working as an academic at Macquarie University here in Australia. She was married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turned her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale.

Soon after their runaway wedding, her new husband was diagnosed with cancer. Kerstin became his dedicated carer. But when she discovered that he had been cheating on her throughout their relationship, she was faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her. 

In this chat we speak about: 

  • Being faced with this emotionally charged conundrum
  • The complexities of loving a narcissist
  • Whether it’s better to find out about infidelity or not
  • How to heal after cheating
  • Whether infidelity poisons your memories and if they were ‘real’ moments
  • Forgiveness being radical self care
  • Kerstin’s choice to not have children and whether she regrets that 


Kerstin has written a book titled Loving My Lying, Dying, Cheating Husband and you can get a copy of it here

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