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A Buddhist recipe for speaking, working, and living in a way that will make you happy.

JoAnna Hardy has practiced in multiple traditions since 1999. She is currently a meditation trainer at Apple Fitness+, a visiting teacher at Black Being LA, a visiting retreat teacher at Insight Meditation Society, and about to embark on a new mystery journey! 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Sila, the Buddhist code of ethics
  • Concepts such as right livelihood and right speech 
  • Why we lie
  • The power of Buddhist tattoos 
  • Hiri and Otappa (AKA healthy shame and healthy embarrassment)

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