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Jun 2025
1h 6m

The Price of Revenge

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Revenge often feels sweet, but what price do we pay for seeking it out? Researcher James Kimmel, Jr. proposes a radical theory: our desire for vengeance operates like an addiction in the brain. This week, how “revenge addiction” plays out in our everyday lives — and on a global scale. 
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