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May 2025
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Why Your Brain Craves Revenge and How to...

Sony Music Entertainment / Jonathan Van Ness
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Revenge, why do we want to get revenge so bad? And where does that urge come from? And how do we go from wanting to get revenge to being able to forgive someone or others? James Kimmel Jr., Yale lecturer and co-founder of the Yale Collaborative for Motive Studies, is on Getting Better this week to teach us just that. James gives us insight into the psycholog ... Show More
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