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Oct 13
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0151 Female Led Relationships: Can You B...

Krystine Kellogg
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This one’s for all of you trying to do it all.

I sat down with my subbie for a real-life, messy, honest talk about something we don’t hear enough about: what happens to your dynamic when you also have a family to raise? Can you still lead? Submit? Play? Hold space for kink and power exchange while also packing school lunches and managing bedtime routines?

This episode was sparked by an article I read on boldpleasures.com about parenting and equality—and it hit me hard. Because so much of what we do in our FLR works because we communicate. And also because we fumble. And figure it out. And get it wrong. And come back to each other.

So whether you’re trying to raise good humans while keeping your subbie in line, or just wondering if you can be a Domme and a damn good mom at the same time… let me tell you: you can. And I’ve got stories to prove it.

Inside This Episode:

  • Why “submission” has zero place in parenting—but mutual respect does
  • How we balance our FLR with equal parenting responsibility
  • The quiet ways power dynamics can still show up at home
  • What our daughter sees, what we want her to know, and how we talk about it
  • How we stay connected when the schedule’s full and the sink’s overflowing
  • The truth about being a “24/7 Domme” (spoiler: I’m usually barefoot and tired)
  • How to raise kids with healthy examples of leadership, love, and emotional safety
  • Why obedience doesn’t disappear just because the dishwasher needs emptying

Ask Yourself:

  • What do your kids see when they watch you and your partner?
  • Is there a clear understanding of power, love, and respect in your home?
  • Are you creating the kind of relationship your children can learn from—not just tolerate?
  • Do your dynamic and parenting style actually complement each other?

My Favorite Quote This Episode:

“I want my daughter to know she doesn’t have to do something she doesn’t want to do. I want her to be confident in her ability to say fucking no—and not feel guilty for someone else’s disappointment.”

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Keywords:
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