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Aug 2024
49m 27s

#83 - Taking Our Partner Off The Pedesta...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

I loved this conversation because time and time again this comes up in the work I do with clients (and it was a pattern in my own relationship). I sat down with Charisse Cooke, who is a London-based relationship psychotherapist with over 20 years experience. She helps individuals, couples and groups develop relationship skills and define love in a way that has meaning for them. 

 

In this episode we discuss:

  • what love addiction is and how we can take the thrill of the chase to extremes
  • what happens when we put our partner on a pedestal and have an idealized version of them
  • the question “do I love them, or am I just attached?”
  • what love is and what love isn’t so we can be more mindful
  • how our expectations and past traumas create certain patterns on our relationship

…and more.

For more of Charisse’s work, check out:

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charissecooke/

Her website: www.charissecooke.com

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