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Oct 10
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The 3 Ways To Make Yourself Feel Better ...

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About this episode

We’ve all been rejected at some point, whether it’s by a romantic partner, a university, a job, a friendship, a sports team... the list goes on.

In this episode of But Are You Happy, clinical psychologist Dr. Anastasia Hronis breaks down why rejection hurts so much and how we can start challenging those negative thoughts it stirs up.

You'll also learn:

  • What goes on in the brain when we get rejected
  • Why some people bounce back from rejection, while others spiral
  • Why you can feel physical pain from being rejected 
  • The three things you should do to make yourself feel better

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Hosts: Ashani Dante & Dr Anastasia Hronis

Executive Producer: Naima Brown

Senior Producer: Tahli Blackman

Audio Producer: Tina Matolov

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