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Healing Complex Trauma - A Man's Guide

Connor Beaton
About this episode

I break down what complex trauma really is - and how it quietly shapes the way many men think, love, and connect. I share the difference between acute trauma and complex trauma, how it’s formed in childhood through neglect or inconsistency, and how these early wounds show up in adult relationships. Most importantly, I give you real, actionable tools to begin healing and reconnecting with your sense of safety and self-worth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The hidden struggle many men face

02:23 - What complex trauma really means

07:03 - How complex trauma is formed

11:34 - The telltale signs and survival patterns

17:55 - How to start healing complex trauma

20:26 - Building safety in relationships

24:11 - Learning to regulate your nervous system

27:23 - Final thoughts and Carl Jung’s reminder

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