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Oct 7
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129. Monica Yates on Being the Breadwinn...

Kate Northrup, Author, Entrepreneur, and Speaker
About this episode

✨ Have you ever wondered what happens when being the breadwinner, burning out, and finding your feminine again all collide?

In this episode of Plenty, I sit down with the incredible Monica Yates — author, podcast host, and unapologetic voice on money, relationships, and feminine energy. Monica and I share an unusual common thread: our journeys both began with learning about the menstrual cycle and eventually led us into nervous system healing. From there, we dive deep into what it really means to let go, receive, and redefine power as women in today’s world.


Monica opens up about her personal experience of losing and regaining her period, stepping into her feminine through unexpected ways, and learning to soften while still holding the role of breadwinner. We talk about the tension so many of us feel between craving control for “safety” and the deeper truth that real safety comes through trust and surrender.


We also explore:

  • What it looks like to be a high-earning woman in a relationship and how to navigate polarity when the traditional breadwinner roles flip.
  • Why nervous system healing is essential for abundance and fulfillment.
  • The hidden costs of trying to “do it all” — and the joy that comes when we actually allow ourselves to receive.
  • The importance of honoring both the masculine and feminine, in ourselves and in our partnerships

Monica’s story is refreshingly honest, playful, and deeply validating. Whether you’re navigating being the financial provider, healing your relationship with money, or simply longing to put down the reins sometimes, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are and invite you into a new way of relating — with yourself, your partner, and your resources.


I loved every moment of this conversation with Monica and I can’t wait for you to hear it.


👉 Tune in, let your shoulders drop, and allow yourself to receive the wisdom here.


“The need to control is an illusion of safety. True safety is your ability to let go and trust.” –Monica Yates

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:30 Welcome & Spicy Beginnings
04:15 From Periods to Nervous System Healing
08:40 Monica’s Story: Hating Womanhood to Embracing It
13:20 The Pill, Control, and True Healing
17:55 The Feminine Craving for Surrender
22:10 Feminism, Polarity, and Mixed Messages
26:35 Practical Examples of Letting Go
31:05 Micro-Traumas and Nervous System Truths
36:45 Breadwinning Women & Relationship Dynamics
41:25 Redefining Provider & Protector Roles
46:05 Valuing Feminine Contributions at Home
50:10 The Illusion of Control vs. Real Safety
54:35 Trust, Travel, and Letting Men Lead
58:15 Sisterhood Wounds & Making Money
1:03:20 Closing Reflections & Permission to Receive


Links and Resources:

Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts

 

Connect with Monica Yates:

Website
Becoming Her
Podcast: Feminine As F*ck.
Instagram
Youtube


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