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Oct 5
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Ask Uncut - Ex-Husband’s Emails… And She...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!

Britt has been in Italy and Laura has had a baby! If you found out the gender of your baby when you were pregnant, was it correct? Google AI says it’s wrong in Australia about 5% of the time. We’d love to know if yours wasn’t right!
Apparently if you’re really into true crime, you need to evaluate ‘why trauma feels comforting to you’. Britt feels a little attacked by this info and she also thinks it doesn’t make sense.

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Dexter Original Sin 

Keeshia - KW ceramics reusable cup 

Then we get into your questions!

FRIEND HAS ACCESS TO HER EX HUSBANDS EMAIL AND I THINK ITS UNETHICAL
I’ve just found out my good friend has access to her ex-husbands emails. She recently told me she saw something in his emails. It was a fleeting comment and I didn’t think much of it until I realised how unethical and inappropriate it is. They got divorced 2-3 years ago and it was quite toxic and their relationship is still very toxic. I’m really close with both of them, I don’t want to ruin our friendship by telling him but I think it’s extremely inappropriate and potentially illegal that she has access to his emails. I have no idea how to approach the situation. Please help.

MUM WON’T GET WHOOPING VAX FOR MY NEW BABY
Hi ladies, OG listener here. I’m stuck in a pickle. I’m 17 weeks pregnant. Here’s where I’m stuck - during COVID my mum became really anti-vax. She was never like this previously, my siblings and I got all our childhood vaccinations. I work in healthcare and always get flu shots, got my COVID boosters etc. I’m really nervous about asking her to get vaccinated for whooping cough before the baby comes. Originally she only cared about the Covid vax but since has gone down a lot of conspiracy rabbit holes in regards to healthcare in general and I’ve heard her make comments about other vaccines. I admit no one will be holding or touching my baby without one and I know my partner and his family would back me up on this. How would you approach this conversation? She is known to be rather reactive so I don’t want to make a drama out of it, rather approach it gently. 

DO I DELETE PICS OF EX FROM IG BEFORE NEW PARTNERS FOLLOW ME?
Should I delete photos with my ex on Instagram before I let the new people I date follow me? I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, and I have one in-feed picture of him and I sitting on a boat (not super coupley but coupley enough) I love the photo - I am so happy in that photo, and nothing bad happened between me and my ex. The photo was from late last year. I am not sure to remove it in case it makes my (potential) future partners uncomfortable? I wouldn’t care if they had a photo of their ex on their Insta. Not sure what to do here (and neither do my friends!)

FOUND OUT MY SISTER CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND AND NOW I SEE HER DIFFERENTLY
I recently found out that my sister cheated on my brother-in-law last year. We’re a very close family—it’s just the two of us, and our kids and partners are all really connected. I knew about the man she had been flirting with and often warned her, reminding her of how good her husband is and encouraging her to work on her marriage if things weren’t going well. Now that I know she went through with it, I feel devastated. Her husband knows and, while deeply hurt, he wants to try and work things out. For me, loyalty, trust, and respect are core values, and I feel like she has not only let her husband and kids down but also me and everyone close to her. She struggles with mental health and was drinking a lot at the time, but I still feel conflicted. I can’t help but see her differently now, and I feel hurt that she could lie about it for so long while looking us in the eye. How can I move forward from this? What can I say to her to express how upset and disappointed I am, without damaging our bond forever?

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