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Oct 3
46m 43s

The ABCD of True Resilience - Part Two

PAUL TAYLOR
About this episode

Part Two of my conversation with  Dr. Alia Bojilova as we delve into the intricacies of resilience, offering valuable insights into the psychological and physiological aspects that contribute to personal and collective growth in challenging times. Our discussion covers a range of topics including belonging, curiosity, purpose, and drive as critical components of resilience. Through this engaging dialogue, we explore the dynamic interplay between self-awareness, community, and purpose, providing practical strategies to harness resilience effectively.

What You'll Learn:

  1. Understanding Resilience: Dr. Bojilova and Dr. Taylor discuss how resilience is fuelled by a sense of belonging and purpose. They highlight the importance of being part of something bigger, with clear positive intent and shared values that sustain and enhance our capacity for life.
  2. Belonging and Identity: The conversation explores the profound impact of belonging not just to groups, but also to oneself. They emphasize the magic of defining personal values and purpose, which serve as a foundation for resilience.
  3. The Role of Curiosity: Curiosity is spotlighted as a vital component of resilience, offering a pathway to see seemingly insurmountable challenges as opportunities for exploration and growth.
  4. Purpose and Drive: Their dialogue underscores the significance of clear purpose as a precursor to drive, with motivation naturally following purposeful action towards meaningful goals.
  5. Physiological Resilience: Dr. Taylor stresses the importance of physical recovery and self-care as foundational elements of resilience, cautioning against the misconception of relaxation as genuine recuperation.

 

Key Takeaways:

  • Stay Purpose-Driven: Purpose precedes drive, making it crucial to align your actions and goals with your core values and sense of meaning.
  • Integrate Curiosity: Cultivate curiosity about yourself, others, and the world to keep your mind open and adaptable.
  • Prioritise Recovery: Ensure that rest and rejuvenation are integral parts of your routine to sustain long-term resilience.
  • Embrace Belonging: Develop a deep sense of belonging within yourself and your community to foster a supportive environment for personal growth.

 

Resources

  • For more on resilience and to purchase Dr. Bojilova's book, "The Resilience Toolkit," check your favourite local bookstore.
  • Connect with Dr. Alia Bojilova on LinkedIn for updates and potential speaking engagements.
  • Corporate inquiries can be directed to Between Two Beers, a speaking bureau in New Zealand.

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00:32 The Psychology of Tribalism and Community

02:04 Tools for Deepening Belonging

03:13 The Role of Awareness in Resilience

06:12 Curiosity as a Key to Resilience

10:29 The Power of Awe and Gratitude

13:52 Effort and Procrastination in Achieving Goals

20:11 Labels and Responsibility in Mental Health

22:24 The Problem with Labels in Psychology

23:27 Understanding Drive vs. Motivation

23:59 Purpose Precedes Drive

27:23 Discovering Your Purpose and Values

34:53 Resilience in Different Contexts

39:23 The Importance of Recovery

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