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Oct 3
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Exhausted From Being a People Pleaser? U...

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About this episode

Do you say yes too often?

When was the last time you said no?

In this special live episode recorded at an iHeart event in New York City, Jay Shetty reflects on his journey from speaking to empty rooms to sharing ancient wisdom with millions around the world. He reveals how reframing adversity helps us face life’s “first arrows” without adding the extra pain of self-criticism, and the daily practices that keep him grounded through challenge. With powerful stories, from a Navy SEAL finding purpose through On Purpose while on deployment, to a young cheerleader who radiates joy despite paralysis, Jay shows how resilience and perspective can transform even our hardest moments into sources of strength and growth.

Jay breaks down what it really means to make “wisdom go viral” and why presence, not time, is the key to deeper connection. He shares the courage it takes to say no to protect your energy, how to keep your soul at the center in an AI-driven world, and the creativity that unlocks when seeing life through childlike eyes. This episode is your reminder to slow down, live with purpose, and let curiosity lead you toward greater connection and fulfillment.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

How to Reframe Adversity

How to Build Confidence from Hard Times

How to Protect Your Energy in Service

How to Say No Without Guilt

How to Think With Childlike Creativity

When we pause to reflect, reconnect with what truly matters, and choose to act with purpose, we not only uplift ourselves, we inspire others to do the same. Keep leaning into curiosity, resilience, and compassion, and you’ll find that the path ahead holds far more possibility than limitation.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:48 It Started with Small, Empty Rooms

04:41 How Do You Approach Adversity?

07:48 The Reservoir of Joy

13:15 Making Wisdom Go Viral

17:25 Why Audio Feels Intimate

21:09 Navigating the Age of AI

25:54 Breaking Free from People Pleasing

31:58 Learning to Adapt When Life Shifts

35:38 Unlocking Creativity with the 30 Circles Test

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