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Oct 1
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442: Why You Stay in Unhealthy Relations...

Monica Yates
About this episode

With October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Monica unpacks the trauma-driven dynamics and layered complexities of unhealthy relationships—because violence isn’t always physical. It can also be emotional and mental, and its subtle patterns can chip away at your self-worth, intuition, and power over time. And we all deserve a relationship that actually feels like peace.

 

Here’s what she’s getting into:

 

💦 The power of language and adding labels to ourselves

💦 Why you keep attracting the same type of man over and over

💦 The complexity of leaving an unhealthy relationship

💦 The fundamental components of a healthy relationship

💦 Honoring your needs in a relationship, and what happens if you don’t

💦 The psychology of trauma bonds

💦 How your trauma chooses your partner before you do

💦 The missing ingredient in your boundaries (and why most women don’t know how to follow through)

 

IMPORTANT NOTE: If you’re in a physically abusive situation and need immediate support, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. You are not alone, and help is available.

 

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