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Sep 25
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The Sex Talk You Never Got: Working Thro...

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#213. Dr. Tara brings her PhD expertise in human sexuality to tackle the conversations most of us are still too uncomfortable to have—from unlearning sexual shame to talking about what you actually want with a long-term partner. She addresses realities like foreplay that no one discusses openly, and offers concrete guidance for women who have never experienced orgasm. With frank expertise, Dr. Tara explains why good sex education starts with unlearning the shame we've all absorbed and provides strategies for having the conversations that could transform your intimate life. This isn't typical "spice things up" advice—it's about fundamentally changing how we think and talk about pleasure, desire, and sexual communication.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

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