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Aug 5
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Being at Your Best When Your Kids are at...

Institute of Child Psychology
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In this heartfelt and practical episode, we sit down with Kim John Payne—renowned author, family counselor, and pioneer of the Simplicity Parenting movement—to explore what it really means to stay grounded when our children are falling apart. Drawing from his book Being at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst, Kim shares compassionate, actionable strategies to help parents move from reactivity to calm responsiveness.


Together, we unpack why children’s emotional storms can feel so triggering, how to navigate them without losing our own footing, and what it looks like to model regulation and resilience in the moment. Whether you're parenting a toddler mid-tantrum or a teen in meltdown, this episode offers tools that support connection over correction, and presence over perfection.


If you’ve ever wondered how to remain the “safe harbor” in the midst of your child’s chaos, this conversation is for you.


To find out more about Kim's incredible work, click here: https://www.simplicityparenting.com/

Being at Your Best When Your Kids are at their Worst: https://www.amazon.ca/Being-Your-Best-Their-Worst/dp/1611802148


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