Have you ever had an abusive boss, a partner who gaslit you at every turn, or a friend who always seemed to bend the truth? You might have crossed paths with someone in the Dark Triad.
On this episode of Office Hours, I’m diving into a topic that doesn’t create happiness but often destroys it: the Dark Triad personality constellation. These are the people with three characteristics: narcissism (it’s all about them), Machiavellianism (they’re willing to hurt you), and psychopathy (they feel little empathy or remorse when they do).
Drawing on behavioral science research and evolutionary psychology, I explain what makes Dark Triads tick, how to recognize them before they hurt you, and why avoiding them is essential for your well-being. I also share what to look for instead—the Light Triad, people who trust others, believe in human dignity, and leave you feeling warm and uplifted in their presence.
I discuss:
• The core traits of the Dark Triad and how they drive destructive behavior
• Which careers and environments attract dark triads and how to spot the red flags
• How Machiavellianism shows up in politics (on both sides)
• The science of emophilia and why people who fall in love too fast are Dark Triad targets
• How Dark Triads thrive on social media (and the “first-date test” that can save you heartbreak)
• The telltale behaviors that reveal a Dark Triad in work, love, and online
• The defense tactic Dark Triads use when caught in a lie
• What the Light Triad looks like
• Audience Q&A on the connection between happiness and intelligence and how to comfort aging parents
You can take my Dark Triad quiz today to find out where you fall https://www.arthurbrooks.com/quiz/dark-triad-personality-test
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Timestamps
(00:00) Intro
(02:04) What is the Dark Triad personality type?
(06:09) How to take the Dark Triad test
(06:37) Why Dark Triads are more common than you think
(11:03) How to identify Dark Triad types
(15:24) The five things Dark Triads do in the workplace
(20:00) The five traits of Dark Triads in romantic relationships
(28:11) How the Dark Triad shows up in politics and activism
(32:11) Why social media is the perfect place for Dark Triads
(34:34) The nine red flags that reveal a Dark Triad
(37:05) DARVO: The defense Dark Triads use when caught
(38:38) The light triad: What to look for instead
(40:12) What’s the difference between joy and happiness?
(42:35) What’s the connection between intelligence and happiness?
(44:22) How do I comfort my ailing and aging parents about their imminent death?
(46:30) Wrap up
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Referenced:
• Leadership and Happiness course: https://www.hbs.edu/coursecatalog/1885.html
• How to Build a Life: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/
• The Happiness Files: Insights on Work and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Files-Insights-Arthur-Brooks/dp/B0F4MFQ6VN
• The Dark Triad of personality: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0092656602005056
• The Prince: https://www.amazon.com/Prince-Niccolo-Machiavelli/dp/1503017826
• Take the Dark Triad Quiz: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/quiz/dark-triad-personality-test
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