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Sep 10
22m 42s

What is sex after gender affirming surge...

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert
About this episode

In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with her.

Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day.

Guest Details

Beatrice (better known online as Triss) is a Bay Area based Mexican American musician and maker. She's been out as a proudly sapphic trans woman since 2015. As an ADHD brain with an endless thirst for fun facts, Beatrice will happily nerd out over music, video games, DIY electronics, and sex (among other things). 

You can catch her tearing up the stage with her band Dirty Twenties (@dirtytwentiesband) and/or watch her solo projects on TikTok (tiktok.com/@trisstunes) and YouTube (youtube.com/trisstunes)."

Listen to "Force Femme Your Dad" by Dirty Twenties!

 

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

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SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them)

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