Why do we stay in jobs, relationships, or situations that look good — but don’t feel right? In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB lays out The 6 Steps to Alignment: a science-backed, soul-centered framework to stop forcing connections and start living in flow.
Here’s what we cover:
Why forcing connection always creates resistance (Psychological Reactance, Brehm, 1966)
The danger of living in roles you’ve outgrown (Self-Concept Clarity, Campbell, 1996)
Why urgency comes from fear, not clarity (relationship-contingent self-esteem research)
The science of choosing intrinsic values over external validation (Deci & Ryan, 1985)
How to trust yourself when others don’t understand your choices (Asch’s conformity experiments)
Why protecting your energy is the ultimate form of alignment (Ego Depletion, Baumeister, 1998)
✨ Quote from the pod:
“Alignment always costs comfort. Sometimes that cost looks like walking away from a good person who just isn’t your person.”
This episode is for anyone who feels “stuck” in something that looks good on paper — but deep down, you know it isn’t aligned.
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