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Sep 2025
1h 37m

Escaping Perfectionism

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Perfectionism is everyone’s favorite flaw. It’s easy to assume that our push to be perfect is what leads to academic, athletic, and professional success. But how do we distinguish between high standards and unrealistic expectations? This week, we bring you a favorite conversation with psychologist Thomas Curran. He says perfectionism has a dark side, and tha ... Show More
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