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Aug 15
31m 33s

How to Move On Without Closure — The Sci...

JB Copeland
About this episode

In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB Copeland dives deep into one of the hardest questions after heartbreak: How do you move on when you never got closure? Drawing on powerful studies from psychology and neuroscience, JB breaks down why your brain hates uncertainty, why unfinished stories keep replaying, and how to finally write the ending yourself. You’ll learn the “Ambiguity Trap,” the “Open Tab Effect,” and how to turn your breakup into the plot twist that changes your life. Whether you’re replaying a last conversation on a loop or struggling to trust again, this episode will help you understand the science behind your pain — and give you the tools to close the loop for good.

Themes

  • ​Why rejection can actually be a miracle in disguise.
  • ​The Ambiguity Trap: why uncertainty feels like torture.
  • ​The Open Tab Effect and why your brain keeps replaying the breakup.
  • ​How naming your pain calms your brain’s alarm system.
  • ​Narrative Mastery: reframing loss as a turning point in your story.
  • ​Declaring your own closure and breaking the dependency on their answers.
  • ​How to soothe uncertainty with self-certainty.
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