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Aug 15
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Ep.167 What is a "Performative Male"?

Alia Zaita & Yoni Ekoto
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In this episode, we dive into the growing online discourse surrounding the “performative male” — the guy who curates his wardrobe, flaunts his reading habits, and crafts an identity seemingly designed to appeal to the female gaze. Is it authentic??? Self-improvement or subtle manipulation? Today we try to unpack the complexities of performance in masculinity, the role of aesthetics in attraction, and the blurred line between self-expression and strategic branding. Along the way, we explore what this says about gender expectations, social media optics, and the evolving dynamics of desire in the digital age.


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