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Aug 14
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What to Do When You Don’t Know What to D...

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#208. Feeling stuck, confused, or like your “real life” hasn’t started yet? In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways we postpone joy, progress, and big decisions while waiting for the “perfect” timing. I’ml sharing practical, low-pressure strategies to help you get unstuck, from clarifying your values to taking small, meaningful risks. Whether you’re in a career limbo, a relationship crossroads, or just feeling unmotivated, this conversation will help you see that life is already happening—and you need to start living now. 

                                                                                                                                                                                            

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