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Aug 13
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What the No.1 Brain Surgeon Taught Us Ab...

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About this episode

Some conversations change lives. Others change the way we think about how we have them.


In this episode, I share the lesson I took from Dr. Rahul Jandial, world-renowned brain surgeon, neuroscientist, and author, about the quiet power of the pause.


Rahul has delivered some of the hardest news anyone can hear. And what he’s learned is that it’s not just the words that matter, it’s what happens after them. In those seconds of silence, people begin to process, to find their footing, to summon the courage for what comes next.


It’s a habit we can all use. At work when we’re giving feedback. At home in tough conversations. In moments with friends when they trust us enough to share what’s really going on.


In this episode, we explore:


  • How silence builds trust faster than reassurance
  • The neuroscience behind giving people space to think
  • Why the pause can change the way we lead, comfort, and connect
  • How to practice it in your everyday life


If you’ve ever wanted to show up better in the conversations that matter most, this one’s for you.


Here is more information on the studies referenced: 


  1. Physician–Patient Communication: The Relationship With Malpractice Claims (Wendy Levinson et al., JAMA 1997)
  2. How to Stop Saying “Um,” “Ah,” and “You Know” Harvard Business Review


Listen to the full episode with Dr. Rahul Jandial: https://pod.fo/e/251425




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