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Jul 28
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Growing up with 45 Siblings | Raised to ...

Devorah Roloff
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Ashley grew up in a polygamous family—where one dad, six wives, and dozens of kids lived under one roof. She shares the surprising realities of her childhood, the family dynamics, the challenges, and the unexpected beauty of life in such a massive household.


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00:02:51 What's it like being born into a family with many siblings?

00:04:12 Why do people have multiple wives in Utah? 00:08:34 How does polygamy relate to religion?

00:10:31 What are the differences between polygamist groups?

00:18:04 How is your relationship with your parents different in a polygamist family?

00:20:01 What is tithing?

00:28:19 How did other kids treat the kids from a polygamist family?00:32:20 What's it like learning your sibling has unlived themselves?00:38:10 Why do people laugh sometimes as a response to trauma?00:40:07 What's it like viewing the body of a family member at a funeral?00:43:03 What's it like when a sibling dies in a big polygamist family?00:48:25 What kind of thoughts do people have after someone they know unalives?00:51:39 How do people commiserate together after a loss?00:57:58 If you're raised polygamist do you grow up to also be polygamist?01:00:46 Do you see people in dreams after they have passed?

01:03:24 How does dating work in a polygamous marriage?

01:11:27 How many wives do polygamists have?

01:16:33 What's it like when your partner's family doesn't like you?

01:18:17 How do small communities gossip?

01:20:40 What does it mean to get "sealed" in the LDS tradition?

01:24:59 What does a hard pregnancy look like?

01:28:19 What's it like having your water break during pregnancy?

01:34:03 What's it like giving birth?

01:37:37 How does it feel to want to leave a polygamist lifestyle?

01:39:09 Why in some religions do they have multiple wives?

01:42:45 How do you leave a polygamist religion?

01:43:28 What is religious OCD?

01:48:51 How does postpartum depression feel?

01:54:42 What is the semicolon project?

02:03:50 What is a home birth?

02:14:16 What's it like learning your child's gender at birth?

02:24:13 How do families react when you leave their religion?

02:30:28 How does losing a close family member still impact you later in life?


Topics: Polygamy, Big Family, Multiple Wives, Family Dynamics


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