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Jul 28
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0147 Female Led Relationships: How (and ...

Krystine Kellogg
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/////RE-RELEASE/////

Let’s be honest—spanking your husband might sound like something out of a cartoon fetish meme or a punishment from the 1950s. But today? We’re unpacking the truth: spanking can be connection, structure, release, and hell yes—pleasure.

In this episode, I walk through a cheeky (literally) article titled “Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide”—but we go way deeper than the clickbait.

If your life feels a little too vanilla lately, this episode just might be your hot fudge drizzle. 

What I Talk Through:

  • Why I’ve struggled with spanking—even when he asks for it
  • The mental shift from “bad toddler” to submissive man serving with intention
  • How spanking can be a reset button in high-stress seasons
  • The tools, positions, and rituals that can make it sexy and grounding
  • Communication (yes, again), boundaries, and safe words as non-negotiables
  • Why "punishment" isn’t always the right mindset—and how to reframe it
  • My honest thoughts on paddles, floggers, ticklers, and that damn camper life


“Spanking doesn’t have to be erotic. It can be connective. It can be healing. Hell, it can just be an emotional reset for two people who are doing their best.”“Sometimes the most powerful thing I can do is take control even when I don’t feel like it. That’s when it becomes a ritual of reclamation.”


Reflection Prompts:

  • How does the word “spanking” feel to you—silly, sexy, uncomfortable?
  • Is there something in your relationship that could use a new ritual?
  • Are you using your power to punish—or to reconnect?
  • When was the last time your subbie really felt your authority through physical play?

Article Referenced:

  • Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide
    [No longer available, but give it a Google—there are lots of other options]

Let’s Talk:

  • Do you spank your partner?
  • Do they ask for it?
  • Does it feel awkward? Empowering? Confusing?

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Keywords:
domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

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