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Jul 2025
37m 19s

The Science Of Safety & The Polyvagal Th...

MONIQUE KOVEN
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In this rerelease conversation, returning guest therapist & author Deb Dana answers your questions. Deb delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining its significance in understanding the autonomic nervous system and its impact on our daily experiences. She discusses the hierarchy of the nervous system, the importance of co-regulation, and the process of befriending one's nervous system. The conversation also addresses the challenges of building capacity in a reactive system, practicing regulating tools, and navigating anxiety. She also emphasizes the need for safe connections and the role of attachment and boundaries in our relationships, providing insights into how to reshape our nervous systems for better emotional health.

takeaways

  • Polyvagal Theory helps us understand our autonomic nervous system.
  • The autonomic nervous system has a hierarchy of responses.
  • Ventral state is where we experience wellbeing.
  • Co-regulation is essential for survival and thriving.
  • Befriending your nervous system is a process of gathering information.
  • Building capacity in a reactive system takes time and patience.
  • Practicing regulating tools is crucial for emotional health.
  • Listening to your nervous system is key to understanding your needs.
  • Safe connections are vital for healing and growth.
  • Attachment styles influence our relationships and boundaries.


Deb Dana's Books & Resources:

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3GSm8Lj

Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safethttps://amzn.to/4515qBj

The Nervous System Workbook: Practical Exercises to Ease Anxiety, Find Safety, and Come Home to Yourself Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/4mdNzOw

Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change https://amzn.to/3TZkw5m

Polyvagal Exercises for Therapists and Clients: 50 Client-Centered Practices https://amzn.to/4lYl4oc

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

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