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Nov 15
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Your Pain Has A Name: A Journey to Heali...

MONIQUE KOVEN
About this episode

In this conversation, author and trauma therapist Monica DiCristina shares her insights on the importance of naming pain and understanding one's emotional triggers. She discusses her book, 'Your Pain Has A Name,' and emphasizes the significance of accurate diagnosis in therapy. The discussion also touches on the impact of dismissal in therapeutic settings, the dangers of oversimplified healing approaches, and the importance of finding the right therapeutic relationship. Monica encourages listeners to keep seeking understanding and healing, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

takeaways

  • Monica wrote her book to help others name their pain.
  • Naming pain is essential for separating identity from trauma.
  • Many people walk around feeling something is wrong with them.
  • Accurate diagnosis is crucial for effective healing.
  • Understanding one's wiring can help in managing mental health.
  • Dismissal in therapy can lead to feelings of isolation.
  • Oversimplified healing approaches can be harmful.
  • The therapeutic relationship is key to successful outcomes.
  • It's important to find a therapist who feels right for you.
  • Everyone's journey to understanding and healing is unique.


Monica's new book: Your Pain Has a Name: A Therapist’s Invitation to Understanding Your Story and Sorting Out Who You Are from What Hurts https://amzn.to/4i3qmxF

Where to Find Monica:

Website: https://monicadicristina.com

Instagram: @monicadicristina

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