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May 2023
37m 56s

How to Talk to People: How to Make Small...

THE ATLANTIC
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Making small talk can be hard—especially when you’re not sure whether you’re doing it well. But conversations are a central part of relationship-building.  In this first episode of How to Talk to People, we explore the psychological barriers to making good small talk and unravel the complexities of the mutual discomfort that comes with talking to people we d ... Show More
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