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Jul 24
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ASK P: hooking up with exes, outgrowing ...

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#205. In this Ask P episode, we’re talking through the messy, beautiful in-betweens of life and love. I’m answering listener questions about hooking up with an ex you’re not over, wanting a dog when you’re not settled down, and moving cities for your partner’s career when you’re still building your own. These aren’t black-and-white situations — there isn’t always a “correct” answer to some of life’s questions. If you’ve ever felt pulled between freedom and connection, or between control and letting go, this one’s for you.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

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