Aug 7

Do Cheaters Always Cheat?

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do cheaters always cheat?You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse.After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people.In this video, D ... Show More

12m 59s

Jul 31

Standing When Your Spouse Checks Out

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Everyone around you is starting to ask the same question.Why are you still trying?Your spouse is checked out. Maybe they've stopped sleeping in the same bed. Maybe they've moved out completely. Maybe there's someone else. And nothing you've tried ... Show More

12m 49s

Jul 24

Dr. John Gottman Reveals All The Top Secrets For Great Relationships

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Most marriage advice is recycled fluff.This is not.I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them.Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in ... Show More

57m 55s

Jul 2025

Give Me 10 Minutes...I’ll Save You 10 Years Wasted on the WRONG Person | Matt Monday

<p>Are you stuck obsessing over someone who’s wrong for you? In this week’s epsiode, I dive into the concept of limerence—the unhealthy fixation on someone who doesn’t return your feelings—and how it can keep you chasing as your confidence falls lower and lower. I’ll show you how ... Show More

10m 31s

Sep 2024

228. The psychology of limerence

Limerance - the state of having undeniable feelings for someone who does not feel the same way - feels so much like love but can be so confusing, because deep down we know this person is probably not the one. Despite that we find it impossible to move on, impossible to disconnect ... Show More

42m 15s

Mar 2021

Married With a Crush? | E240

Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless ... Show More

55m 13s

Aug 2025

#21: How to Get Over Someone Who’s Not Interested in You

If you’ve ever been stuck thinking about someone who doesn’t feel the same way, you know how painful and exhausting it can be. In this episode, we talk about limerence — the intense infatuation that feels like love, but is actually emotional obsession.You’ll learn:What limerence ... Show More

11m 15s

Dec 2023

Have You Ever Suffered From Limerence? - Understanding the Connection and How to

What is limerence and why is it such a powerful feeling? Limerence in an immediate attraction and mental obsession with a specific person. This sensation of deep connection and chemistry feels overwhelming, and you find yourself saying, “I've never felt this way before.” Work wit ... Show More

12m 45s

Jul 2025

Think It’s Love? 5 Signs It’s Obsession (And It’ll Never Last)

How do you know if it’s love or obsession? What does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about someone who doesn’t return your feelings? In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey talk about the phenomenon of limerence, how it can leave you always clinging to hope in dating, ... Show More

1h 22m

Oct 2025

Limerence

Why does falling for someone so often feel like a painful obsession? In episode 144 of Overthink, Ellie and David discuss the unspoken difficulties of limerence, or the state of falling in love. What is the difference between love and limerence, and why do we confuse them so freq ... Show More

59m 52s

Jan 2025

Limerence, Love, and Life Transitions: January Mailbag

Dr. Rick and Forrest begin the mailbag by exploring limerence – an obsessive form of romantic attraction – and offer practical recommendations for working with one-sided infatuation. They then discuss what to do when romantic vulnerability feels unsafe, and how we can rebuild tru ... Show More

1h 4m

Jun 2024

160 - Limerence (like really, really obsessed)

This episode is for when you're obsessed. We're talking like really, really obsessed. You know, thinking about them 24x7, imagining you see them everywhere you go - hoping for a chance encounter? Basically, mad fantasy bonding. And this episode? It's to help you understand that y ... Show More

56m 20s

Sep 2025

Overcoming romantic obsession

When a crush turns into a harmful obsession, you might experience limerence, romantic infatuation characterized by extreme emotional highs and lows, intrusive thoughts and idealization. In this episode, we talk to neuroscientist Tom Bellamy, author of the book Smitten, about how ... Show More

22m 26s

Limerence EXPLAINED - Why You Feel So Al...