logo
episode-header-image
Jul 2025
1h 3m

Friend Fight and Therapist Red Flag

Kirk Honda
About this episode
Bobcast! Dr Kirk and Bob answer patron emails.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Do you fight with your friends? 09:25 Why don't we say that friendships take work? 
23:55 Can you dissipate resentment? 
40:42 Dyslexia newsletter & speed reading
49:07 Are therapists trained to step out of a session?
54:17 Dr. Kirk's alterations to schema therapy

58:59 When should therapy begin?

Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/join

Become a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattle

Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contact

Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com

Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/

Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.honda

July 21, 2025

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®

Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.

Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
Up next
Today
Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 3 - Signs and Disorder Justification)
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 26, 2025 <br /><br /><b>This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at <a href="http://betterhelp.com/KIRK" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">betterhelp.com/KIRK</a> to get 10% o ... Show More
29 m
Yesterday
Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 2 - Definition and TikTok Reactions)
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 25, 2025 <br /><br /><b>This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at <a href="http://betterhelp.com/KIRK" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">betterhelp.com/KIRK</a> to get 10% o ... Show More
31m 12s
Nov 24
Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 1 - I Was Wrong)
Dr Kirk Honda provides his long-awaited lecture on limerence. November 24, 2025 <br /><br /><b>This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at <a href="http://betterhelp.com/KIRK" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">betterhelp.com/KIRK</a> to get 10% o ... Show More
1h 4m
Recommended Episodes
Apr 2025
The C’s
<p>We share from <em>How It Works</em>.</p><p>“We didn’t cause it.  We can’t control it.  We can’t cure it.”  But we can contribute compassion.</p><p>Our website is <a href="https://systemspeakpodcast.com/">HERE:</a>  <a href="https://systemspeakpodcast.com/">System Speak Podcast ... Show More
21m 2s
Jul 2021
06: Dissociation
<div> <div> <p><span>In this week&#39;s episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C, a trauma therapist, consultant and coach, gives a thumbnail sketch of the complicated topic of Dissociation. In this episode you will hear:</span><span> </span></p> </div> <div> <ul> <li> <span>What Disso ... Show More
12m 24s
Mar 2024
EP77: Love, Friendship, and Honest Conversations: Listener Questions Answered
<p>Lots of great listener questions this week. Sarah’s offering tips for talking with your partner about what it means to be in love, weighing in on whether or not you should know if your partner has slept with a friend, suggesting healthier ways to release your anger, helping to ... Show More
1h 6m
Sep 8
People Pleasing and the Fawn Response with Meg Josephson
Forrest and therapist Meg Josephson explore the fawn response, a survival strategy where safety is sought by pleasing other people. They discuss how fawning can start as self-protection in childhood, but later morph into overthinking, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment. Meg sha ... Show More
1h 14m
Sep 1
High Performers and the Hidden Cost of Emotional Repression
Emotional repression is often invisible to high performers, and it can be one of the biggest barriers to sustainable success. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, we explore how trauma-shaped survival responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can create patterns of overwork, p ... Show More
53m 21s
Sep 8
497: Finding The Authentic Therapist In You with Stefanie Klein
<p>How can therapists learn to see countertransference as a gift, rather than a problem? This week&#39;s guest is Stefanie Klein, LCSW. Stefanie, an SEP and <span>NARM Master Therapist, is the Assistant Training Director for the Complex Trauma Training Center where she is also a ... Show More
56m 25s
Sep 18
BITESIZE | Why Your Brain Wants You To Be Anxious (And What You Can Do About It) | Dr Anders Hansen #579
Compared to most of our evolutionary history we have never been richer, safer, or lived longer lives. Yet, despite that, more of us are struggling with our health than ever before. What’s going on? Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and he ... Show More
24m 25s
May 2024
432: Healing Trauma Through Yoga + Somatic Psychotherapy - With Dr. Arielle Schwartz
<p>This week&#39;s episode is the second in the live episodes recorded at Psychotherapy Networker back in March - my guest today is Dr. Arielle Schwartz! We talked about our own healing journeys, how yoga can help trauma survivors with embodiment, integrative therapies, and much ... Show More
43m 4s
Oct 1
What Hollywood Gets Wrong About Mental Illness | Dr. Eric Bender
I'll teach you how to become the media's go-to expert in your field. Enroll in The Professional's Media Academy now: https://www.professionalsmediaacademy.com/Huge thanks to @dr.ericbender for joining us today! Check out his channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.ericbender00: ... Show More
2h 3m
Sep 19
Minisode: Single White Female with Chelsea + Catherine
Chelsea and Catherine get a Friends-with-Benefits followup and hear from a mother-daughter-duo who inspire stalkers. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views an ... Show More
17m 17s