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Jul 21
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Friend Fight and Therapist Red Flag

Kirk Honda
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Bobcast! Dr Kirk and Bob answer patron emails.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Do you fight with your friends? 09:25 Why don't we say that friendships take work? 
23:55 Can you dissipate resentment? 
40:42 Dyslexia newsletter & speed reading
49:07 Are therapists trained to step out of a session?
54:17 Dr. Kirk's alterations to schema therapy

58:59 When should therapy begin?

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July 21, 2025

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